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Be Safe Online


Computer use can be monitored and is impossible to completely clear. If you are afraid your internet and/or computer usage might be monitored, please use a safer computer, call your local hotline, and/or call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1−800−799−SAFE (7233) or TTY 1−800−787−3224

Pat's Experience

Learn from the life experiences of Pat Pulley in the book Love, Loneliness, Abuse and Murder.

Love, Loneliness, Abuse and Murder

Get Involved


There are many ways you can take up the cause and help domestic abuse victims. Those who volunteer and contribute financially can make a big impact.

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Domestic Abuse Awareness

This site exists to help those who are suffering from some form of domestic abuse and to offer resources to those who know someone who may be suffering from this abuse.

Jim Pulley's passion is to offer this website as a help after his own mother suffered in an abusive relationship and did not receive the help she needed. In addition to championing this website, he has also written a book Love, Loneliness, Abuse and Murder that details her life's story. It is his hope that this book and website can help encourage others.


Statistics on Domestic Abuse

  • A woman is beaten every nine seconds
  • Women make up 85% of all domestic violence victims
  • Domestic violence is the largest cause of injury to women
  • 1 in 4 women will be a victim of domestic abuse in their lifetime
  • Half of all women murder victims are killed by a spouse or someone they know

What is Domestic Abuse or Violence?

The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence defines it this way: "Domestic violence is the willful intimidation, physical assault, battery, sexual assault, and/or other abusive behavior perpetrated by an intimate partner against another." 

The Link Between Loss and Abusive Relationships

In Pat's life, her difficulty in dealing with the loss of her husband set her up for poor choices.  Poor choices that ultimately resulted in an abusive relationship.  If you have recently lost a loved one, don't ignore the process of grieving your loss.  You can read some helpful advice or look for a trusted counselor if you need help.  




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